I used to feel sorry for her about this and to be honest, slightly superior, till I realized that I too can be obsessive-compulsive. (Just not about cleaning). I first recognized it in myself, after therapy and joining a support group, as it pertains to my adult children. They were making choices that I felt were not in their best interest and I could not stop myself from interfering in their lives. I'm getting better but it remains a struggle and always will be. I think it's natural for parents to fall into this, but it's not healthy, for the children or the parent.
In my recovery process I have realized that I have always leaned toward being obsessive-compulsive, often in one area of my life at a time. I have had times when I obsessed over our family budget (whether money was tight or not), running (5 marathons, 1 ultra), school ( up all night before clinicals preparing) and other things.
The past 12 months I have poured myself into this fight for a union at work. It' a fight worth fighting, the outcome will benefit coworkers and patients now and for years to come. I could not have continued day after day if I wasn't the way I am.
I'll share a great prayer that helps me: